We all have those friends or family members who come to us for advice. They’re going through a tough time, and they need someone to talk to. We want to help, so we offer our advice. But sometimes, the best thing we can do is just listen.

Here are a few reasons why people might want you to listen instead of advise them:

• They just need to vent. Sometimes, people just need to get things off their chest. They don’t need advice, they just need someone to listen.
• They want to feel heard. When someone is going through a tough time, they often feel like they’re not being heard. By listening to them, you can show them that you care and that you’re there for them.
• They need to come to their own conclusions. Sometimes, the best way to help someone is to let them figure things out for themselves. By listening to them, you can help them to process their thoughts and feelings and to come to their own conclusions.

Of course, there are times when it is appropriate to offer advice. But if you’re not sure, it’s always best to err on the side of caution and just listen. Here are a few tips for listening effectively:

1. Be present. When someone is talking to you, give them your full attention. Put away your phone, make eye contact, and really listen to what they have to say.
2. Don’t interrupt. Let the person finish their thought before you respond.
3. Ask questions. This shows that you’re interested in what they have to say and that you’re trying to understand their perspective.
4. Avoid judgment. It’s important to be non-judgmental when someone is talking to you about a difficult situation. This doesn’t mean that you have to agree with them, but it does mean that you should respect their feelings and their right to make their own decisions.
5. Offer support. Let the person know that you’re there for them and that you care about them. You can offer practical support, such as helping them to find resources or to make arrangements. You can also offer emotional support, such as listening to them and letting them know that you’re there for them.

Listening is a powerful tool. It can help to build relationships, to resolve conflict, and to provide support. If you’re willing to listen to the people in your life, you’ll be surprised at how much you can learn and how much you can help.

Here are some additional tips for being a good listener:

• Be patient. It may take time for the person to share what they’re going through.
• Be empathetic. Try to put yourself in their shoes and understand how they’re feeling.
• Be supportive. Let the person know that you’re there for them and that you care.
• Don’t offer solutions. Sometimes, the best thing you can do is just listen.
• Don’t judge. It’s important to be non-judgmental when someone is talking to you about a difficult situation.
• Be confidential. Keep what the person tells you to yourself.

Listening is a skill that takes time and practice to develop. But it’s a skill that’s worth learning. When you’re a good listener, you can build stronger relationships, help resolve conflict, and provide support to those who need it most.

Here are some examples of how you can be a good listener:

• If someone is talking about a problem they’re having, ask them open-ended questions to help them explore the situation.
• Let the person know that you’re listening by nodding your head, making eye contact, and using verbal cues such as “uh huh” and “I see.”
• Avoid interrupting the person or trying to offer solutions until they’ve had a chance to fully express themselves.
• If the person is feeling overwhelmed, offer to help them brainstorm solutions or connect them with resources that may be helpful.
• Let the person know that you’re there for them and that you care.

Listening is a powerful way to show someone that you care. By taking the time to listen to someone, you can help them to feel heard, understood, and supported.

Sometimes, the best thing you can do for someone is to just listen. If you’re willing to listen to the people in your life, you’ll be surprised at how much you can learn and how much you can help. Be there for your people and be free to share what you want to but wait, with only those who are really trustworthy!!

World is changing every day and life is full of different level of experiments and exams… So what more important is… How you will handle that? We see a lot of people daily, Isn’t it? All are doing their work to reach and fulfill their goals. So there are two types of people in this race, one who complete their goals and the other who lose the race. What is the reason behind this?

What you think, is it intelligence, talent or smartness? As per a research, the contribution of these three are only 30% overall. So, again we get back to the question that what defines success for rest 70%? It is mental toughness (or GRIT, a word by scientists). Grit can be easily defined as passion and perseverance…

MENTAL TOUGHNESS

• A personality trait.
• Fundamental to performance, well-being and personal development.
• Determines how people deal with challenges, stressors and pressure.

Since the human psyche is strongly influenced not only by external but also internal voices, our mental state can benefit from psychological tools including:

• Positive Thinking : This impacts what is known, felt and believed to be true. To boost this self-talk is a best way to encourage yourself as no one will do that for you. An inner dialogue of “I have planned for this”, “my training has prepared me” or “I know how to control these feelings” provides a way of handling nerves and stress.
• Visualization : An internal focus on positive mental images, can favorably impact both mind and body. Mental rehearsal is a proven way to prepare for challenges and assert control over your inner voice.  
• Attentional control : This increases your capacity to focus. For some, this may be the difference between success and failure. Concentrating on the right thing, especially under pressure, can be learned through setting goals, removing distractions, and using routines to better embed knowledge.
• Goal setting : Goal should be clear, realistic and achievable as this will focus and energize you and also provide long-lasting motivation. In other words, chunking the bigger challenge into smaller manageable components that can be tackled individually, is key.

A mentally tough person interprets challenges as opportunities and believes they can maintain control in their life. In everyday life, mental toughness allows someone to better manage stress, overcome challenges and increase contentment.

According to Peter Clough (a professor of psychology at University of Hull), mental toughness is made up of four components, that psychologists call as “the 4Cs“, and are…

• Challenge
• Control
• Commitment
• Confidence

Parts of MENTAL TOUGHNESS

1. Perseverance of effort: ability to work hard even in the face of failure
2. Consistency of effort: sticking to one goal unless and until you succeed

Qualities one can see in Mentally Tough Leaders

1. Consistence in their work schedule, works on clear goal and won’t get disturb with minor emergencies which arose daily
2. Keep the surrounding motivated with positive thoughts and prepare everyone for the worst situation

Consistency?? Think in this way…

Our 10% of the life is unpredictable, we can’t control that. When any emergency or accident occurs we have to balance if with courage and patience but for next 90% to get what you really want, consistency is the only key to get that. Thus, it is really important to work in this direction as well. This will help you deal with high-stress situation.

How to become Mentally Strong…

Are you strong enough to convince yourself? Are you mentally strong…? What does it mean to be mentally tough? Mental toughness is just a capacity to effectively deal with challenges, stressors and adverse situations, and still perform well in spite of their circumstances.
Developing a tough mentality helps you cope with distressing and overwhelming moments in life better. You are more capable of handling fear and doubts than anyone else, but for that don’t fall for the bad though rise with the rest to make it the best…

Get an emotional trash can

Emotion trash is really a big need to boost you, to protect yourself from all the negative thoughts coming in your mind. Why? Because negative thoughts are often what bar you from where you want to be… These thoughts can fill you with anxiety, dread and wind-up emotionally harming you. Mental strength is hard to develop when you have a negative mindset.

The best solution to this would be to get a trashcan. And the point is you can throw all your worries, fears and doubts to gain better respite and mental clarity. Now for this, find a creative outlet for your emotions, talk to yourself as you are the best buddy for you and lastly reach out to a therapist.
Trashing all bad thoughts and dealing with them in a healthy manner gives you a chance to process them and get to a resolution. With clear and positive mindset, it is much easier to get your goal with full focus and satisfaction.

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Acknowledge and use the power of choice

Do you feel pressured while while making the right choices? Are you worried about disappointing others or even letting other people down if you make the wrong choice? Then let me let you in on a secret, there is no such thing as the right choice. Choices that are honest and in tune with what you want or need at that situation are considered to be the right choice for you. Right choices are nothing but simply your thought process for that time when you are planning or making the things to happen.

If you find yourself unclear or uncertain, just take the pen and paper and make a list of present goals. Figure out what exactly you’re willing to let go of, especially if you know that it doesn’t serve you. And what you’re grateful for or what you truly want to focus on.

Do the difficult things first

Life is like a game where level of difficulty increases with every now and then. At some point everyone wants to run away from something difficult. It’s perfectly normal to want to run away when things get harder and more difficult for an individual. It can feel like impossible to finish what was started. But sometimes, in order to move forward, one has to figure out how to get through those difficult times. You certainly don’t have to do it alone.

Take a look around you; find a support group that’ll be able to provide comfort, support and strength for you. There are people that can walk with you through your difficult time and also help you to safely reach the other side of the mountain.

Exercise

Physical exercise are best for both your physical as well as mental health. This helps you establish discipline. The discipline of the mind is necessary for developing your mental toughness because that helps you build consistency. When you are steadfastly committed to building up your mental fortitude, negativity has a harder time of tripping you up.

Regular exercise helps you sense of routine, consistency and many other added benefits of providing a healthy outlet for your emotions and stress.

Learn how to lose gracefully

Despite how unpleasant it might be, failure can be the ultimate teacher. If anyone is dealing with failure, sometimes the resulting anxiety and stress can weigh you down. This keeps you from learning from your mistakes, whatever the lesson might be. Take the time to sit with your thoughts and work through the feelings that you’re experiencing.

Ask yourself, “What is the lesson here? How do I move forward?” Once you’re able to take accountability for yourself, it’s easier to move forward and not make those same mistakes a second time.

Practice gratitude

Maintain gratitude even when you’re going through a difficult season. Does it feel hard to be grateful, especially when you’re going through a lot in life? Sometimes it can be easier to focus on the negative things around you, but practicing gratitude increases your overall happiness, reduces depression and helps you override negative thought patterns.

When you focus on what to be thankful for, you’ll definitely find a way for happiness and lightness take hold within your heart. Being grateful and having an open heart helps you to focus on your goals and dreams so can go forth and achieve them.

Let go of things you can’t control

Do you find it hard to let things go? Do you always want to fix everything and feels like you’re the only one who can do it? It is tempting to want to control everything yourself, especially when things start going downhill.

But, eventually, somethings has to give. When things go wrong, ask yourself, “Is this something I can solve? And if so, How?” What is your role in the process of achieving a solution? Learning to let go of things that are out of your control will make you feel less stressed and help you have a clear mind.
When you think of the phrase, creating healthy habits for yourself, you may probably think of exercising, eating healthy and getting to bed on time. Yes, these are all great things to do for your physical health, but what about your mental health? Creating healthy habits for your mind is just as important as keeping a healthy body, because one can easily influence the other.

Like any other skill, even one that you’re born with, mental toughness must be developed and maintained… 

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There was a time when Afghanistan was a modern state, faith was a private matter, burkas were optional woman and men could travel together. Right next door Iran was not far behind; it was at far with the western world. Women could step out without a wheel, even meet men at public places but the Iran and Afghanistan of today are a lot different. Today HIJAB IS MANDATORY. Western clothing is frowned upon clerics dictate societal norms, religious police patrols the streets and civil rights are all but non-existent. What happened in these countries? They came under the Sharia Law.

Today let’s discuss the most controversial concept in the world, The Concept of Sharia. It’s back in the news after the Taliban took over Kabul; they plan to rule Afghanistan under the Sharia Law under the Taliban’s version of the Sharia Law. What does that mean? What will change in the Afghanistan? What place does the Sharia have in this day and age? How many people in the world follow it? Why is it so controversial? Why does the world fear it will take Afghanistan further back in time?

What is the Shari’ah Law?

To begin with the first question, ‘What is the Shari’ah?’ To many the word conjures horrors of hands being cut off of adulterers being beaten and women being oppressed. In fact no religious law has ever had worse press as the Sharia has in recent times. Why is that so? Thanks to the Misrepresentation, Manipulation and Misuse of Sharia by whom! The Islamic regimes, politicians, clerics, radicals, terrorists. They’ve all used the Sharia to rule in the name of God.

So, returning back to the question about The Sharia Law. Well there is no clear definition, different people understand and apply the Sharia in different ways but if we put the broad concept together the definition will sound like… The Sharia is Islam’s legal and spiritual system, both divine and philosophical. Divine because it is said to be God’s will for humankind and Philosophical because it is based on the human understanding of what that divine will is.

In Arabic, the SHARIA translates to “the clear, well-trodden path to water”. The human interpretation of Sharia is called the FIQH which literally means “human understanding”. Now these terms are used interchangeably but they are not the same.

SHARI’AH VS FIQH

Sharia is considered divine permanent infallible but its understanding is human. It’s a set of rules put together by Muslim scholars over the centuries. These rules have been drafted and applied to suit those in power.

The sources of Sharia Law, where do the Rules come from!!!

The three sources: The QURAN which is “Islam’s Holy Book”, The SUNNAH which is basically the “Deeds of Prophet Mohammad” and The HADITH which is the “Sayings of the Prophet Mohammad”.

There’s a range of other sources to work out how God wants Muslims to live but there is no single law book, no definite statute, no set judicial proceeding to determine what the Sharia is… It’s basically a vast collection of different often conflicting interpretations. These interpretations gave birth to five schools of thought, the five legal schools of Sharia and you must know this.

5 SCHOOLS OF THOUGHT

There are different kinds of Sharia you would say. Hanbali (Founder: AHMAD IBN HANBAL), Maliki (Founder: MALIK IBN ANAS), Shafi (Founder: MUHAMMAD IBN IDRIS ASH-SHAFI’I) and Hanafi (Founder: ABU HANIFA AN-NU’MAN); these four belong to Sunni Islam and the fifth is the Shia version of Shria and it’s called Ja’fri. All five of them are named after theologists and jurist, the men who interpreted Islamic texts.

Now look at this map, the Hanbali School is the smallest and strictest of them all. It’s primary source is the Quran, it is practiced in Saudi Arabia and Qatar, it also has significant followers in Syria, Bahrain, UAE, Yemen and Oman.

The Maliki School of Sharia relies mostly on independent understanding of the Quran. It is predominantly found in African nations. The whole of West Africa along with Chad, Sudan and Kuwait.  

The Shafi School of Sharia relies on consensus over understanding of the Quran and this is where it’s followed: East Africa and South-east Asia in countries like Somalia, Eritrea, Ethiopia, Egypt, Djibouti, Maldives, Indonesia and small communities in Malaysia.

Furthermore we have the Hanafi School, the earliest, the most flexible version of the Sharia, it relies both on consensus and independent reasoning. This school has the largest number of followers, approximately one third of the Muslims worldwide. They live in Turkey, Jordan, Lebanon, Afghanistan, Pakistan, India, Egypt and Bangladesh.

Lastly we have the Ja’fri School of thought followed by only Shia Muslim; it is enshrined in the constitution of Iran. It also has a lot of followers in Iraq and small pockets of followers the world over.

So, we have five different versions of the Sharia. How are they different, not in the fundamentals of faith but in their practice? There are differences in how they pray, how they resolve legal matters, how they settle marital disputes, how they deliver punishment for certain crimes and this is understandable because no religion is uniform.

But the problem begins when religion is mixed with governance. Many Muslims who embrace the Sharia thought of it as a substitute for the law of the land and that’s where the problem lies.

The Sharia was just supposed to be a way of living, it was not meant to be associated with political power. When European colonialism began to spread the crown and the church came together, the church was used to further the interest of the rulers. The same thing happened in Muslim kingdoms and while European nations later separated the church from the state, many Islamic countries did not.

THE INFLUENCE OF COLONIALISM

France, Britain and other European powers had colonized much of West Asia, Africa and Asia. When they left, leaders of the newly formed Muslim majority countries faced the dilemma. Should they govern based on the previous Islamic values? Or should they embrace laws inherited from colonial rule?

Well they chose the Sharia as the basis of their legal justice system and this gave birth to all kinds of theocracies, hard-line and moderate.

NATION THAT ADOPTED SHARI’AH

Countries like Algeria, Libya, Egypt, Sudan, Syria, Iraq, Oman, Pakistan and Yemen they all had the Sharia. Even countries which were not colonized by the West adopted the Sharia.

In 1932, Saudi Arabia was formed as a theocratic monarchy.

In 1979, Iran witnessed an Islamic revolution, until then Iran was a secular monarchy. After the revolution the clerics took power and the country became an Islamic Republic.

In 1996, the Taliban seized power in Afghanistan and they made it a terror regime based on the Sharia.

What makes this law acceptable in some countries and horrific in others? The answer would be its understanding and implementation. Some countries enforce the most discriminatory and patriarchal aspects of the Sharia.

They selectively picked certain verses from the Quran and legalized draconian practices like polygamy, triple talaq, and genital mutation. They also enforced rules that had little or no basis in Islam. Research shows that most of these punishments were not sanctioned in the Quran; they were not practiced by the prophet.

Yet today they’ve made the highlights of the Sharia, they’re being used to dictate daily lives of Muslims the world over. A lot of followers do not understand this; they just stubbornly uphold ignorant and unjust practices. The biggest victims of this are Muslim women.

Does God judge differently based on gender? For many clerics it does, despite the fact that women worked and fought alongside the prophet. In many countries women cannot step out without “an abaya” (or a veil) but men can dress the way they want. Women cannot stand for president but men can govern for a lifetime. Women cannot choose to have an abortion but men are allowed to have four wives. Women cannot travel without a male guardian, women cannot drive, women cannot retain custody of their children after divorce and they receive half of what is awarded to their brothers in inheritance.

The list of restriction on women in the name of God is appalling and the Sharia misuse does not end there. It is cited to justify what they call the conquest mindset to wage wars in the name of Islam especially by terror outfits, who portray themselves as more faithful than other Muslims. They use religious scholars in their ranks to make finely crafted arguments to use religion as a pretext to perpetrate violence. They exploit people who have little understanding of Islam. They recruit them as foot soldiers to fight their politically motivated wars. Some join them in the name of faith, some in the name of their land, some for a good paycheck and some because they’re just murderous but this is not the Sharia.

A lot of damage has been done in the name of religion by people from all faiths, by people from all cultures that are true for the Sharia too. Yet it remains a way of life for 1.8 billion followers of Islam in more than 57 countries. Does that make it acceptable? Who decides and in which form?

As per my opinion all things including religion must evolve with time. If some practices are outdated, they must end. Religious law may not have a place in modern nation-states governed by a constitution. If the Sharia’s interpretation and practice clashes with today’s way of life and social structures then perhaps it’s time for revision and reflection rather than resentment.

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Mainly Indian families are against adopting children, WHY?

In India, adoption was always considered acceptable, but only within the extended family. There was a common custom for ‘barren’ couples to adopt a child from their sibling or cousin, and raise it as their own. In the 1920, war and poverty led to increase in abandoned children and formal adoption became a pressing need.

The British introduced the Children’s Act as a way for the people to adopt children who were not related to them. The first Children’s Act was enacted in the Madras and Bombay Presidencies in 1920, giving the state the responsibility to look after destitute and neglected children.

But still, adoption did not catch on within Indian Families. #ApnaKhoon #maa_ki_kokh #baap_ka_khoon etc… In fact, till as late as the 1980’s, adoptions by foreign couples were more common than formal adoption by Indians.

But why don’t Indian families favor adoption? Having the same genes as your family is almost considered a necessity in Indian society. This biological bond is often seen as the basis of the parent-child relationship, which holds it together and gives it social legitimacy.

Indian popular culture reinforces this emphasis on the biological bond, giving a ‘blood bond’ (#khoon_ka_rishta ) or child born from the womb (#kokh_se_janma_bchcha ) a revered status. In fact, couples who are unable to conceive biologically even prefer to opt for reproductive methods over adoption.

One study showed that many infertile couples would prefer to remain childless rather than adopt a child from outside the family. And those who do end up adopting children from outside the family often hide the fact that their child is adopted, because of social stigma.

In addition to the belief that the child is ‘not really yours’ because they are not your biological child, the unknown background of the child also raises questions about the ‘purity’ of its family lineage.

Because so many children in India are abandoned because their parents cannot afford to take care of them, or because they are born of illicit relationships, there’s a pervasive belief that the casts or socio-economic background of the child could taint the family legacy.

Unfortunately, the attitude that treats the adopted child as ‘paraya’ (not your own) is not unique to Indian society. Many cultures think of the biological bond as essential to the parent-child relationship and look down upon adoption as ‘second best’ to having a natural-born child.

But today’s family models, like social parenthood, blended families and queer families redefine this parent-child relationship and identify what should be at the core of the bond, care, economic responsibility and emotional support.

So, instead of stigmatizing adoption as unconventional, maybe it’s finally time to not only embrace adoption, but also to redefine what lies at the center of the parent-child relationship.

However, you may choose to have a child, it’s not the blood relation that should be at the core, but the need to connect with, nurture and care for another.     

WHAT THE ADOPTED CHILDREN THINK

We all love our families, and it’s pretty amazing feeling to be part of something so special but being adopted is not always straightforward and neither is adopting. So we decided to share some points, that kids as well as parents will relate and this will also help them to understand each other better.

Initially the steps include a healthy conversation, if you’re going to get to know each other one has to talk, simple right? Maybe not, all kids are worrying about or scared of and no different. Most adopted kids will have been through some difficult times in their lives. Even just changing families is traumatic, let alone the stuff we might have been seen before that happened it’s not the kind of thing you can just bring up over breakfast, it might take years until they feel ready to trust anyone with that stuff.

We’ve got our whole lives together, there’s no need to rush things until when it means a lot to know that someone is there and is ready to listen to anything. It doesn’t have to be the big stuff; no two people are the same. We all feel differently about how much or how little we want to share and when but one thing is for sure, there’s no right time to find out you’re adopted so it’s much better to find out as soon as possible. Don’t just suddenly be told one day up to blue and when we do start talking a bit more about things in our past or the family left behind it doesn’t hurt to have a little helping hand. A life story book or a memory box is a good way to put those jumbled memories in order. It help making sense them and to collect the moment want to keep as we continue our adoption journey together.

Next up is school. School is really tough for everyone. Homework, teachers, exams or the kids… It’s not for anyone to take in because of the things we’ve been through we often find it difficult to trust even the people closest to us. So making new friends may take time, now imagine feeling like that I’m being tucked into a room full of other kids, you barely know and being expected to somehow concentrate on school work as well no wonder solvers adopted kids might get labeled as disruptive or difficult you might even feel like we get bullied because we’re seen as different in the way we act or just because we are adopted. We think that adoptive parents should talk to their kids before they start school and help them understand what they might be feeling while they’re there and why

And lastly make sure our teachers don’t tell other, people will use adoption as a label. Not everyone understands adoption and this can really make things hard if people get the wrong impression. Let us tell our close friend about it when we’re ready, not when someone blares out in science. No one is perfect but people who’ve been through similar things way up, they’re gonna be moments when we’re definitely less than perfect to be days when everything’s just fine mass won’t fit and we act out that may mean shouting arguing runaway or just really needing to be alone and that’s even before we become teenagers.

Days when things reminders of the past can be especially hard even happy days like birthdays or the anniversary of being adopted can bring up feeling and memories have held inside for a long time. If we’re having a bad day, the best things you can do is just try and be calm and understand, try not to get too frustrated with us, take it as a compliment that we feel close enough to you to let our feelings show even if it’s not in the nicest way.

It sounds like a lot but the end of the day we just want to be part of all of our family just no end up. There’s some close that we can trust and rely on for love and support no matter what will really make a difference. We can start to heal the feeling from our past and look forward to the future together.

So there you go… quite easy, isn’t it… alright… maybe not. But with a bit of understanding and support from each other they can be the happy and amazing family we all want to be.

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Do kids really have to do coding for making apps in small age ? Is there any need of those Apps for which Kids are coding?… Do you think Coding skills in small kids a good move!!! CODING IN EARLY AGES, GOOD OR BAD?….

Your kids are neither any start-up who should be updated, nor they are smart enough to handle that technical pressure of THE CODING WORLD… Do you really think your child need to learn programming logic in the age of creating innovative ideas and enjoying the real world!!!

Last evening my relative called me to ask about some programming languages for kids, that he can plan for his child to join the coding class and the kid is of age five. WHY? I asked. What is it that a child needs at the age of five?

The child needs his parent’s time and security, he needs to develop his physical skills, hone his language and speaking skills, and his metabolic system has to be in place. All of this has to be achieved before he can get into coding and programming.

I think there are three points that are the main reason of enrolling the kids in coding classes. First and major one is fear of missing out. The second is the sense of security with jobs. The third is that parents wanted to channelize the energy of their children during the pandemic and they found coding to be one way of doing that.

What is CODING?

In simple words, Coding is a method of communicating with a computer. It is using many different languages that a computer understands to give a computer instruction in order to perform specific functions. Coding allows us to create things such as computer software, websites, apps and video games.

The only thing people are getting and sharing for their child’s future is “Make children learn CODING or they will fall behind”. One should accept the fact that, “Children are not start-ups & Parents are not angle-investors”.

Yes, coding may be essential to make your child ready for the future but firstly give your time to you child, so that he or she can understand about it. Every child is unique; also have the right to choose their goal as well as path to reach their goal.

Yes, it may contribute in developing computer literacy but what if your child don’t want to be an indoor person and in future may be plan to go for making career in sports field, medical field, etc. where they don’t have to work on the coding section.

Why the people trying to make their child a clone, same as of others? And at what cost?

By making children hump to computers for hours every day, by making them the exact clones of one another… Not only this is depressing, it’s unfortunate… People are trying to create a generation of obedient executor, individuals who have made to memorise coding recipes…

WHY? Because we were made to memorise math-science formulas, and for coding they say New Age Mathematics. But if making children code develops their cognitive skills, so does story-telling, creative-writing, singing song and dancing do.      

Before jumping in the vast ocean of coding with your precious child, wait for a while, make a pause and ask for yourself just three simple questions…

1. Is your kid ready to clarify the thinking around coding plans in basic words?
2. What about the effects of increasing screen time for children? Which is obviously high…
3. Do we have to teach only employable skills to children? Skills that may be out-dated by the time your child grows up…

We are living in a world of rapid transformations, what relevant today may not be relevant tomorrow…

As software developer Jeff Atwood explained in an influential 2012 blog post, “Programming is important … in the right context, for some people. But so are a lot of skills. I would no more urge everyone to learn programming than I would urge everyone to learn plumbing.”

The Evolution of CODING:

Starting from 1949, there have been 10 new computer languages every decade… JAVA, C, C++, COBOL, PYTHON, JavaScript and many more, they keep evolving. The coding your child learns today may not even be relevant at the time he or she gets to college, CODING WILL EVOLVE WITH TIME. It won’t go any time soon but child who would will, so it’s a request that let your child live in real world to face real life problem and make the mind strong enough to create basic logics other than 0 and 1. 

Is CODING a Bad Idea for kids?

Of course not, Computer programming is an important subject and even the National Education Policy 2020 has emphasized the need for early exposure to children on computers and technology. As per MHRD website, India has over 12 crore students in the first to 10th standard bracket with over 6 crore in the 10-15 years age group.

Do we want these kids to become programmers at the age of 10 or 12? There is much more to life for these young minds than coding. The NEP is envisaging holistic development of the future generation. Let us get the priority right. We need to provide a strong foundation on cognitive skills or life skills for the young kids to become effective in their life and career. We don’t need crores of coders.

Let us face it; a good software engineer will go through four years Engineering course work on computer systems and related areas. In addition, a Master’s degree with a specialization in Artificial Intelligence or Data science can also be pursued Of course, there are cases where non-engineering students too have fared exceedingly well in the Software Industry, but then those are exceptions.

What experts says on Early age Coding Education?

Johnny Castro, a child development expert and teacher preparation faculty member at Brookhaven College in Farmers Branch/Dallas, TX, mentioned that he emphatically opposes teaching kids to code. “Let children play and enjoy childhood – we do not need to push down the ‘career’ or interest in computer programming until the child is actually closer to 15 or 16 years old.”

Instead, Castro believes it is more important for children to explore all the various areas and opportunities in math, science, and other fields “before they become experts” in a particular area. “Computer coding is far too advanced and something that sounds like adults externalizing that ‘children can learn to do this and I would have loved to do this as a child.’”

While kids may be interested in computer games and robotics, Castro warns against interpreting this as a signal to get them career ready. “The more open-ended and interactive math, science, and computer technology activities are, the better for the child’s learning and sustained interest,” he says.

Margaret Leary, Ph.D., chair and director of curriculum at the National CyberWatch Center, is a networking cyber person so she does not code as a profession. However, Leary tells that typically around the age of 2 and then again around the age of 19 or 20, young brains are more conducive to learning new languages.

Does this mean that children should start learning to code in the crib? Not exactly. Leary continues, “Studies have shown that every 2 years, 60% of our technical skills become obsolete, so any programming languages learned 5 or 6 years ago are unlikely to be in use after that time.”  That’s not the only issue. “I would even contend that some studies show that we are shifting from left-brain functions on which traditional programming has relied, to right-brained functions, so it will be interesting to see how this impacts the discipline,” Leary says.

As being parent you are the very first teacher of your child. Teach them how to be a good human being, search the answers of their small life problems in their own way. Also teach them the importance of collaboration with others.

The days of brilliant, lone hackers are over. Many software developers now work in large team which requires empathy and respect for many different kinds of people. Tell your kids that we can all learn from each other. Show them that they don’t act in a vacuum—that the things they do, and the words they say, have real consequences for themselves and others.

Finally, teach them patience in the face of increasingly intolerable frustration. The single-minded focus that your toddler brings to balancing a square stick on a round log can be applied to scrolling through thousands of lines of code, looking for a single syntax error. That is how you learn to hack the planet. Or maybe just make it a little better.

Reference: www.goodcall.com ; www.youtube.com ; other internet sources.

Everyone have problems in their own life but you must know How to solve your problems by creating new options if you won’t found the previous one.

Our society only welcomes to those who help themselves. You may get disturb today but what you have to do at that time is just believe in yourself, all because it’s you vs you.

In case you feel down, just take a break from your busy schedule and try to do those activities which makes you happy, by which you get mental peace. If you are only not happy, you won’t find the world happy anymore. Also you can talk about your problems with your loved once to resolve it but the answer which you are looking forward to get from others may never reach you because no one can give the best solution of your problem unless and until they won’t feel the same.

Not to worry anymore about it, let’s try some options which may help you to reveal your problems in front of you and only you, all because it will help you in building you more experienced person in your world of problems and there solutions of your life…

1. In this world of fake people, don’t interact with yourself with a fake smile. Be the real you and face your problems. Many of the people find it difficult to know about their problems, the best idea is either to write what you feel or to draw. These two ways are also used by the psychiatrists to know about a person’s problem. Also if you are an introvert, and don’t feel safe to talk about your problems with others this is the most easy option to get the answer with any outer support.        
2. If you think you can get the solution by talking, go for it. Just talk to your loved once and feel relaxed by getting the solution. Many times people overthink about the problem or don’t want to discuss with the know people, in such case you can get the best answer from the unknown people. The unknown people really don’t know about your past or the present and will help you to get the solution with their opinion. But it may be possible, that you will forget about your problem when you meet new people, just by the interaction or the small talk because our mind only need some positive vibes when feel sad.
3. Don’t hesitate about your problems but try to keep a proper perspective towards the problems. If a problem arises, it also brings the solution, what you have to do it just face it and go for every options which clicks your mind to resolve it. Also always be ready for the next problems, as in real world both positive and negative sections will surely reach you to test your life. Always prepare yourself to expect the unexpected and learn from your problems.  
4. Don’t think your problems like a dead end, although treat it like the exams which we all have to give in the school time to get good marks and proceed for the next. In same way, you know that nothing will be there for last longer so try to create the options to solve your problems and once you know how to make your mind happy, you won’t face a big black screen in front of you in case of next upcoming issues. Here your mind will tell you positive vibes, that you have cracked the last problem and surely you will crush the next one.  

Really wanna a solution? Think on paper

Here you will get some steps to resolve the problems in the most effective ways:

1. Identify your issues along with your presence of mind and note it.
2. Try to understand what you can do? What solution you want at the present time?
3. Also understand everyone’s interest before you visit to others place to discuss.
4. Make a list of all possible options or solutions.    
5. Evaluate either individually or with your partner with whom you are sharing the problem.
6. Select an option and go with it to get the result.
7. If worked, wonderful! Else try the next one because it’s only you who can do it as you know yourself as well as the problem from the closest side.
8. Once your issues resolved, don’t forget to destroy the blue print which you have created to get the result.

Woohoo! Aren’t you feeling relaxed now? See you did it. Just believe in yourself you are the only person who is the best buddy of yourself and who can fight from all those never ending thoughts…

Still feeling something missing? No need to take more tensions. Be strong… you are at the right place; you should try these lines to boost yourself…

You don’t have to be like a buried person, a person who got buried by problems, by life, by thoughts, by anxiety, by stress. No one is like that… Try to take help from these lines to rebuild you back again! Just say it loudly…

I have to correct my mind.

I have to work on myself.

I have to build that mental strength because nothing is more important.

Today I will rise from the grave of disappointment to rise high.

I will dig my way out of hell and fight for my heaven.

I will dig my way out of the darkness until I find the light.

I will dig my way out of the weakness until I realize my strength.

I will dig my way out of defeat until I find the champion.

No longer will I blame others, circumstances and events.

No longer will I accept an average life.

I will accept all the responsibilities and challenges.

And I vow to work, work until I find my solutions and my way, whatever it takes, however long it takes.

Now I am committed to bury my problems, once and for all.   

Sometimes, You are the one who have to fight for your way out of the darkness. Just refuse to be buried by life and your problems because you are more than this. Fight your way out of that hole. Get out now and bury your problems, bury them for good.

That’s all for the today! Thanks for reading. Hope this helps.

We believe whisky brings the world together! Here’s to all the Whisky Lovers! Happy #WorldWhiskyDay!  

While the occasion is celebrated by whisky lovers worldwide with tastings, events and gatherings, the COVID-19 pandemic has put a dampener to such initiatives. World Whisky Day is, "all about making whisky fun and enjoyable, not about being exclusive or prescriptive.

World Whisky Day is celebrated on the third Saturday of May. In 2021, it falls on May 15.

Brief About its Origin

The origins of the word Whisky can be found in the Gaelic Language. Uisce Beatha was the original name of whiskey in classical Gaelic, which ultimately became Uisce Beatha in Ireland and Uisge Beatha in Scotland. Both of these names mean “Water of Life” and tells us just how important and vital this particular distillation was to the Gaels.

Michael Jackson in his book Whiskey: The Definitive World Guide wrote that MacVeys, who were a family of physicians, translated medical texts from Arabic regarding the process of distillation, resulting in the creation of the first whisky.

So what, exactly, is whisky? Whisky is what happens when you create take rich flavorful grains and ferment them into a mash, and then take that mash and distil it down into a pure delicious spirit.

The World Whisky Day was created by a University of Aberdeen student, Blair Bowman around a decade back.

What day is World Whisky Day?

Falling on May 15 every year, World Whisky Day is quickly approaching. This day is all about enjoying your favorite whisky and adventuring to try new ones, all while sharing the experience with good company.

Why is World Whisky Day celebrated?

World Whisky Day was founded in the year 2012 by Blair Bowman while he was still studying at the University of Aberdeen. This year the day is being celebrated on May 15, Saturday. Well, this is one of the special days for all whisky lovers as it gives them an official day to get drunk and celebrate the drink.

According to Bowman, World Whisky Day is, “all about making whisky fun and enjoyable. It’s not about being exclusive or prescriptive.”

How is World Whisky Day celebrated?

Every year and all over the globe, bars, restaurants and hotels celebrate World Whisky Day in countless ways. There’s no better place to celebrate World Whisky Day than where it all began, though: at the bar. These range from tastings at independent whisky rooms to multi-course whisky-themed dinners at renowned hotels.

How to celebrate World Whisky Day at home?

Fed-up of this pandemic? Let’s have some fun with a try on Whisky Sour…. Here’s a recipe you can give a try…

What happens when you drink whisky every night???

Let’s now go with some facts, which happens when you Drink Whiskey Every Night. Some of the points are mentioned below:

1. You’re more likely to suffer from a horrible hangover
2. Your sleep cycle can be interrupted if you drink whiskey often
3. You may help alleviate a cold
4. You might help improve your immune system
5. You could keep away bacteria
6. It could affect your memory
7. It can interfere with your medications
8. You could prolong your life
9. You can dry out your skin if you drink whiskey every night
10. You may lower your chances of having a stroke
11. Drinking whiskey every night could potentially help regulate your insulin
12. You will build up your tolerance to alcohol, so moderation is key
13. Studies show that you may be able to help your heart health if you drink whiskey every night
14. If you always drink whiskey every night, you could damage your liver
15. If you drink whiskey every night instead of other alcohol, you’ll consume less calories and carbs

Also READ: What to eat now in hot Summer? | 5 Essential Foods and Drinks of Summer Diet

Hopefully you found this a bit useful, do share your views with us through the comment box below… And till the next update stay safe stay healthy….

Summer is back again, Are you people ready to beat the heat??? Here you will get some of the essential points which you all must add and follow in your daily routine make your body healthy.

As you know, Seasons are changing on the regular basis and in India even very frequent, so taking care of your health is the very first priority and for that you must intake proper diet and hydrate your body in the hot summer season.

Basically the hottest time of the year in India is from April to June but now we can see the rise in temperature even in mid-February. Summers are the time for wearing light colored loose cotton clothes, staying indoors, light eating and drinking lots of water.   

Importance of Diet During Summer

Hot and humid season means dehydration and water is the lifeline. Thus, one needs to carry a water bottle before leaving your home. Also if you have a desk job, the water bottle should be kept at your desk and consumption is required at the same time… After the complete setups, one needs to drink water after each small interval of time. Don’t wait for the time when you’ll feel thirsty because by the time you feel thirsty, probably you have lost more than half liter of your total body water composition. Hence you must drink water before you are thirsty.

Hydration is really and always important, as you all know that our body covers more than 60 percent of water and in hot-humid weather, water gets release from our bodies in the form of sweating. Also you must know that drinking water helps us by promoting weight loss, give glowing skin, boost-up your metabolism, flushes out toxins, increases energy and relieves fatigue.

To stay fit and healthy during summer, food consumption plays a vital role, always go for fresh, easily digestible and modest food. In case you will intake unhealthy foods or drinks, either your immunity can save you or you will be surrendered as heat-related health issues. Now let’s discuss some of the Healthy Summer Foods and Drinks, you should not miss in this season.

FOODs and DRINKs for SUMMER:

Seasonal fruits & vegetables

In the childhood time, our grandparents always bring the seasonal fruits and vegetables on every visit. What is special about the seasonal fruits and veggies??? Seasonal fruits and vegetables are healthy as it contains own natural colors and flavors as they are grown under favorable weather condition without any artificial influencer also they are super tasty and affordable. Like in summer, the body feels dehydrated, so the seasonal fruits available during this time contains higher amount of water such as mangoes, melons, sweet corn, amla, cabbage, mushrooms, salads, juices, coconut water, yogurt, etc. whereas during winter, our body faces different problems and needs extra protection to maintain metabolism, boost energy level and other kind of illness, fruits and veggies available during winter provides vitamins, minerals, anti-oxidants, warm and also provides glow to the skin. Some of the foods are dry fruits, seasonal veggies and fruits, dairy products, whole grains, ghee, nuts, oil seeds, spices, herbs, saffron, etc.

Curd (Lassi/ Buttermilk)

Curd/Yogurt and butter-milk help you remain cool in the summer season and keep your digestive system running smoothly by hydrating and boosting your energy level at the same time. Just by adding a lil amount of salt or sugar, your body will feel more balanced and energized. Also curd is a great stress-buster and lowers the anxiety level in a moment.

Sprouts and salads

In summer, sprouts or salad is delicious and tasty way to enjoy a light meal. It is very important to intake the easy to digest food and contain high levels of water and nutrients. Such eatables can either be eaten alone or mixed with other veggies and salad. Other than sprouts and salads, sweet corn is also a best to consume organically cultivated corn and is rich source of vitamins, fibers and minerals. You can steam, grill, bake and even boil the corn according to your mood and enjoy the corn with other veggies as a tasty salad.

Seasonal Fruit Juices

To beat the heat during summer’s high temperature, juices and smoothies are the best way. This is the exact time of the year when we all want to do sip on a cool fresh beverage to keep you hydrated and energized. Also melons and coconut water are the favorites with peoples of all age groups. Now here you will also get some formula, to surprise your friends and family by giving them homemade juices:    

Iced Tea

A freshly brewed tea is rich in antioxidant which makes your teeth, gums and bones healthy. But it is advisable to drink only one to two cups of iced tea daily, as the high consumption may results in both sleep and stomach. Now let’s discuss How to make this??? Take a glass of water to boil and add one teaspoon of tea leaves and wait for ten minutes for simmer. Now cool it and add honey as per taste. And your iced tea is all set to enjoy.

Also some of the foods and drinks in summer season you should avoid to stay healthy…

• Hot and Spicy Food
• Street and Fried Food
• Hot and Caffeine Drinks
• Non-Vegetarian Food
• Tandoori Food
• Ice-Creams and Cold Drinks
• Frequent Intake of Dried Fruits
• Sauces and Processed Foods

These are some tips you should keep in mind, and also some must be avoided to enjoy the summer season without facing other health issues.

Hopefully this article was quite helpful and surely next will reach you soon, till then take care of your health and give suggestions for the next via comments.

WHAT IS HAPPENING AFTER THE COVID-19 LOCKDOWN PERIOD?

Life will never be the same, is now completely changed. The crises happened to take us to another path. We have been having huge and blind trust towards the globalized world. Things will be changed at every level. May be we should just forget about handshakes forever, people will be seen wearing masks everywhere, not been able to travel that freely,  we will unintentionally keep our distance and be more cautious around our elderly.

To overcome these pressure and make an energetic step daily we need to built some special power for us. And so the  very special keywords from our day-to-day lifestyle is self-motivation and humour at the same time. Nowadays, everyone talks about the term motivation or self-motivation and gives enormous points regarding the same but I will be sharing my opinion on ‘Humour’.

So the question is what is HUMOUR???

In modern usage ‘Humour’ means ‘MOOD’ or ‘CHARACTER’, but the word also denotes ‘that which causes laughter’.

According to the Oxford Advanced Learns’ Dictionary, the defination of HUMOUR is “the quality of being amusing or comic, especially as expressed in literature or speech, a mood or state of mind, each of the four.”

This simply means ‘Humour’ is a literary tool that makes audiences laugh or that intends to induce fun or laughter on anyone’s face by making fun of some situations, statements, attitudes also this is often found in movies, advertisements, theaters and ofcourse literature, where the major purpose is to make the audience happy. 

Humour is a light-hearted way to mend or to make good.

We all know that if your communication skill is good and people enjoys your company, then sense of humour plays the major role. So, to increase the happy moments some basic steps are to be included in your lifestyle, which are really important because:

LAUGHTER IS THE BEST MEDICINE

Now the question is HOW TO DEVELOP OR IMPROVE SENSE OF HUMOUR???

• Be a Good Observer and Look at Things in an Unexpected Way
• Stay Relaxed and Watch Content that You Find Funny
• Extreme Level Comparison by making Jokes based on Their Preferences
• Change the Direction or go for Voice Modulation
• Use a Contrasting View or Sarcasm
• Make People Laugh More, with another Joke of the Same Topic (i.e. Have Fun, Carry On…)  
• Appropriate Breaking of Stresses for Laughter
• If you’re making a Joke, make sure it’s a Punch Up Joke

Simple and easy ways to improve your sense of humour are:

(1) Laugh at yourself.

(2) Be around with funny people.

(3) Be happy to make happy.

If you also thinks in the same way, please let us know by sharing your thought… We’ll love to know what you want for our betterment because ‘WE ARE IN IT TOGETHER…..’